Month: January 2017

4 Lessons I Learned from the Wilderness

This is not a blog post on how to survive in the wild. I often call the time before a person is married, “the wilderness”. It is a barren wasteland that God has graciously delivered me from by providing the oasis that is Kelly. Here are four lessons that I learned during my time in the wilderness. 1. Contentment is a heart issue, not a status issue. Tell me if you heard this before? “If only I had someone, then I would be content” This was definitely one of my thoughts during my time of singleness. I thought discontentment would be done away with. But when Kelly and I started dating, I realize that I became discontent in other ways. Mainly, that I wanted to be engaged. Which then made me wonder, “What if I was engaged and became discontent because I wanted to get married? What if I was married and then became discontent because I wanted children? What if I had children and became discontent because I wanted them out of the house? …

4 Things I Learned About My Singleness (After I Got Married)

It hasn’t been very long since I was single and a student at UCLA and to be honest, the thought of getting married soon after college never occurred to me until God changed the direction I thought I was going and made it very clear that I was heading towards marriage. Looking back, I realized there were areas in my single life I wish I had been a better steward of. And so, I am thankful and humbled to know that I can still learn from that period of my life. The following are not only things that I learned about my singleness, but also things I can continue to grow in now as a newly married person. 1. I had more time. We often hear about how little time people have. “I don’t have time to meet today.” “How can it be 3 o’clock already?” “I need to manage my time better.” If these aren’t things we’ve heard people say, they’re certainly thoughts we’ve had ourselves. Time is the one thing we can’t earn …

“Have faith in God.”

I read Mark 11 yesterday and was convicted by verses 24 and 25. Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” Verse 25 says that whenever we come before the Lord in prayer, we shouldn’t come with grudges. The message is clear: we should forgive others because God is merciful to us—He forgives us based on the redeeming work of Christ and not anything we have done or can do. I was reminded that every time I sin, I lack faith because I’m forgetting Christ. Jesus tells the apostles to “Have faith in God” a few verses before. Verse 25 tells me that every time I pray while still being bitter towards someone in the back of my mind and in my heart, I don’t have faith in God. It tells me I’ve forgotten that God forgave …

An Uncurated Christmas Weekend / Our First Christmas

Knowing that we wouldn’t be with our families this Christmas (not by choice!), Ray and I wanted to do something a little special. It was our first married christmas. We didn’t have a tree or anything but we wanted to do something different. Somehow the idea of a technology fast came about. We were so nerdily excited about it. Our families were out of the country and we didn’t have to contact very many people since it was the weekend, so it made sense to do it. As the days approached/when the weekend was finally here, we realized we had to lax the rules a bit. The only real necessity for tech was using the internet and MacBook to check-in to our flights… But we were wrapping gifts for our relatives when we just had to listen to Spotify. (I had a song stuck in my head.) We then realized that man-made rules are always fallible. Sounds silly but Ray even came up with a sermon illustration for our “experience.” We were like the Pharisees …